I went to New York’s most exclusive sex party – a naked man set himself on fire and groups writhed on latex beds
A MAN lighting his penis on fire, six people having sex at once, and a mound of bodies writhing on an oiled latex bed.
For most people, these would be once-in-a-lifetime sexual experiences — but at one of the world's most exclusive sex parties, this was just a regular Saturday night.
At Snctm, the city's most coveted adult nightlife membership starts at a whopping $12,500 annually to start, with the highest tier at $50,000.
However, Snctm provides free admission to "elegant and intriguing women" who are accepted to their women’s guest list.
I caught up with two female party-goers — one seasoned veteran and one first-time attendee — to gain some insight into Snctm's world of polyamory and indulgence from the ladies' perspectives.
CARINA FIKA — LONGTIME MEMBER
Carina Fika and her partner Leonard are polyamorous swingers who joined Snctm due to its reputation in the adult nightlife industry as one of the best in the business.
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The 20-something discovered Snctm as a way to freely express her longtime sexual desires and preferences.
"My partner and I, we have always been in the scene," she revealed to The U.S. Sun. "At the beginning of our relationship, we always knew that we both were poly."
"I've been to every single Snctm event in the past year, other than one because of work," she added, noting that she attends both the Los Angeles and New York City events.
Carina revealed that she enjoys being with other women in addition to her male partner, and Snctm made this fantasy a possibility for them.
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"We like being together, but we also like being together with another woman because I love my girl time," she said.
Carina said that the judgment-free libertine vibe at Snctm allowed her to explore a different aspect of her sexual desires, which bear some contrast to her bubbly personality and petite frame.
She explained her dominant and submissive sides, which some in the BDSM community refer to simply as "dom" and "sub," with a "switch" referring to someone who goes back and forth between the two roles.
"I have found that I'm a dom with girls," she added with a giggle. "I always thought I was a switch, but after going to so many events, I realized I really like domming women and women love being dommed by me."
Carina recounted a memorable moment when she was asked to join one of Snctm's sultry spectacles in which a classically trained opera singer performed for members while Carina joined in on the act — in a very different way.
"They dressed me up in this beautiful costume and they did my makeup and everything," she detailed.
"I danced to this room and there was this beautiful opera singer, and she had such an incredible voice."
Carina spent the performance using a sex toy in front of the crowd.
My moans and her singing were merging together to make this beautiful duet
Carina Fika
"It was a very magical and almost an out-of-body experience, being able to get off while looking at this opera singer right in her eyes as she's singing all these high notes.
"My moans and her singing were merging together to make this beautiful duet.
"At the end of her song was when I orgasmed in front of a crowd of people, there was a spotlight on her and a spotlight on me, with the crowd cheering us on for an encore.
"After, I changed and caught up with my partner, this beautiful girl approached us, and asked, 'Do you want to have some fun?'
"Together we went into a bedroom. I dominated her and she absolutely loved it. We made out, tried some impact play, and took turns with my partner and each other.
"She'd never been in a threesome, and ended up having many new experiences that she really enjoyed
"She was just an incredible, kind-hearted person," she said.
FARRAH JONES — FIRST-TIME ATTENDEE
Farrah Jones is a single woman in her 30s who decided to attend a Snctm event for the first time, despite a history of only monogamous relationships.
"I heard about Snctm from my boss actually, but that's a whole other story," Farrah told The U.S. Sun. "I decided to try something new and explore a side of myself that's otherwise kept hidden."
She said that while she wasn't sure what to expect, she was curious about what goes on at Snctm after hearing rave reviews about the events, which sometimes draw A-list celebrity clientele.
"As soon as I walked in the door I was greeted by a masked man serving Ferrero Rocher off his crotch," Farrah said.
"The performance art really drew me in. I saw a man light his penis on fire. He was fully nude. I've heard of fire-breathing, but this was next level.
"I met this gorgeous woman tying her girlfriend up with ropes in complicated designs. It was like watching living artwork.
"When I asked about it they were happy to talk about their kink and even gave me resources on how to learn rope tying myself."
Farrah said she saw couples of all sexual orientations act out fantasies in the swanky New York City venue.
"I saw a six-some in one bed," she said with a laugh. "Or at least I think I counted six bodies, maybe more.
"Some people were just watching them and enjoying being voyeurs. And right next to that, I was having a conversation with a woman about our favorite beauty products like it was ordinary.
I saw a six-some in one bed...or at least I think I counted six bodies, maybe more
Farrah Jones
"The experience gave me permission to really explore my self-love. And witness how other people express love with their partners."
In another wholesome moment, she saw that Snctm provided a caring community among its members.
"I saw a group of people having sex in a latex bed," she recounted.
"They asked another friend why she wouldn't join them and she told them, 'I'm allergic to latex.' Without skipping a beat, they took the party to a non-latex bed."
As the night progressed, Farrah revealed that she felt comfortable enough to disrobe at a party full of masked strangers.
"I love my body and I love being naked," Farrah said. "I hate how women are shamed for showing skin. It's a personal choice.
"I spent most of the night only wearing a crystal-embellished thong and high heels. And no one could touch me without my permission.
"That, for me, was empowering."
Farrah noted that the love she received from other women made the experience all the more enjoyable.
"Most people approached me to compliment my look," she said. "Some sweet girls told me I should 'never wear a top' and that was a big compliment coming from such beautiful women."
She also revealed that being at the party gave her a new perspective on her effect on others and personal power.
"I had a guy approach me and tell me that when I walk by, I leave a nice scent behind. He was like, 'You smell amazing! Can I smell your hair?'"
"Of course I let him have a whiff," she admitted with a laugh. "He was visibly excited by just that."
Farrah said she appreciated the fact that she could feel desired by strangers while maintaining her safety, something that isn't always guaranteed in the big city.
"An exchange like that would never happen in a bar. I mean, if it did, I'd run for the hills as soon as he asked.
"It made me feel proud of my sexual presence. Every part of me is a sensual experience, including the way I look and smell."
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Farrah recommended the sultry adult nightlife outing for all who are curious about their innermost passions.
"I think everyone has certain desires and fetishes they keep beneath the surface," she added. "Snctm provided a safe environment to explore that."
